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He didn’t realize that I’m not just there to keep him warm

GummiLove Rookie Emi met Robin* some time ago. The two got on well, but the more Emi wanted to do with him, the less interest Robin showed. Emi grumbles: "I'm not just there when he's drunk or about to go out." Because: Benching is out!

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Rookie Emi and Robin* have known each other for a while. There have been occasional sparks between the two, but while Emi can imagine more, Robin puts it on the back burner. The more interest Emi showed, the further Robin moved away. However, when she also kept her distance, he would get in touch again. Emi grumbles: "I thought it sucked that he was just trying to keep me warm. That's not what I'm here for." She explains how she got out of the vicious circle in the video above. Below, you can also find out what sex expert and GummiLove founder Corinne has to say about the

The Sexpert tip

"Flirting and playing with fire leaves everything open, but at some point there comes a point when you ask yourself: 'What do I actually want and what does the other person want from me?' At this point, it's really important to be honest - so that the other person doesn't get false hopes or your own feelings or those of the other person aren't hurt. Nobody wants to be 'kept warm' or used as a stopgap. That's why it's important to show your own appreciation and - like Emi - say clearly that you no longer want this situation." *Corinne Rietmann is a sexual health specialist and project manager for education and prevention at GummiLove.

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Emi

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