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Am I masturbating too much?

How often do women satisfy themselves on average? And what about when you're in a relationship? I usually satisfy myself every night before going to bed, is that too often? I need it to be able to fall asleep well...
And when you're in a relationship, do you have sex every night instead? I'm afraid that my partner might not need it every night and I think it would be weird to satisfy myself next to someone else, wouldn't it?

Question submitted on 1. July 2020 by Ichhättedamalnefrage?

Jannik says

Sexualpädagoge, Social Justice und Radical Diversity Trainer

How often someone satisfies themselves varies greatly. From not at all to several times a day. An average says little here. There is no such thing as too often (unless it hurts or you can no longer cope with your everyday life because you have to masturbate all the time).

It has been scientifically proven that masturbation can help you fall asleep. How you handle this in a relationship is something you need to discuss together. In principle, there is nothing wrong with doing this when someone else is present, as long as it is OK for the other person.

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