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Do dancing and selfies with other women count as cheating?

My wife says that taking selfies with other women or dancing is cheating? What do you think?

Question submitted on 14. March 2022 by nogo?!?

Corinne Rietmann says

Deine Sexpertin von GummiLove

Hey Nogo

It's great that you're asking your question here and looking for opinions.

However, only you and your wife can decide together where the boundaries of cheating are in your relationship and what kind of relationship you have. You can't get legitimization from others for your behavior, you can only do this as a couple. Rules are also defined together in open relationships, for example. Trust is a very important basis in a relationship and if cheating means dancing with another person, you have to decide for yourself whether you want to abuse this trust and cross this line or whether you don't want to live this relationship like this. What I'm wondering is that you're writing about your wife here, so you've been together for a while. Did she already have this opinion from the beginning of your relationship or has she only now made this demand of you? If this has always been the case, you should have clarified this from the beginning and if you don't get on with these ideas, perhaps you should have ended the relationship. If she is only now making these demands of you, you should ask yourself what it could be. Is she afraid of losing you or does she doubt that she is no longer attractive enough or loved enough? The only thing left for you to do is to have a good conversation with her so that you both feel comfortable in the relationship. If you can manage this as a strong team, trust will be restored. I wish you all the best and lots of love

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