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Question submitted for topic Dating & Love

How do I approach someone if I don’t know if the person is taken?

And how can I do that if I don't know if they are already taken?

Question submitted on 11. August 2020 by Kevin

Corinne Rietmann says

Deine Sexpertin von GummiLove

It's best not to open the door straight away. If you talk to a person normally and see if they are interested in you and would perhaps do something with you, there is no need to ask about a possible relationship.

You'll find that out as you get to know them. The beauty of flirting is that you don't always have to know or say everything straight away. Flirting is the art of letting someone know that you find them attractive with looks, witty words or a smile. Flirting is like a game where nobody knows exactly how it will end. A flirtation can last a moment or be the beginning of a great love affair. Flirting should be the opposite of crude chat-up lines and should be light, fresh, funny or cheeky.


Flirting involves a touch of desire - I want you - maybe - maybe not... The first commandment when flirting: Have the courage! It's important to stay true to yourself and not have the feeling that the more forceful the approach, the better the flirtation. Of course, flirting can also be rejected from time to time. If you are rejected, smile and say goodbye in a friendly manner. If you reject someone; be honest and friendly, the other person has shown a lot of courage in approaching you. Reject the person in the same way you would like to be rejected.

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