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I had sex with a trans* woman. Am I gay?

Hello GummiLove

I was on vacation in Thailand and met a beautiful Thai girl when I went out. We had a lot of fun, but then we had a huge surprise in bed. It turned out that she had a penis. At first I was totally shocked, but somehow it was also nice and special. Now I'm extremely worried about whether I'm gay or bi or what I am. How can I find out, or is this normal? Thank you for your answer

Question submitted on 25. February 2020 by ferien flirt

Jannik says

Sexualpädagoge, Social Justice und Radical Diversity Trainer

Hello

It's great that you're sharing your experience with us and believe me, you're not the only person who has had an experience like this - there are lots of people who have similar experiences.

The way you describe it sounds like a very exciting experience. Whether you are gay, bisexual or another sexual orientation is entirely up to you.

You had sex with a woman. There are (trans) women who have a penis. So the way I see it, you had a heterosexual experience with a trans* woman. If it was nice, that's just great! See it as an enriching experience and don't worry too much.

The main thing is that you feel comfortable in your body and your way of loving.

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