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Question submitted for topics Puberty, Dating & Love, Sexuality

I would like to have my first time

I have a few questions here:
I am 16 years old, male and regularly watch porn and have a huge desire for sex. But I haven't had my first time yet. I just watch porn all the time now and when I see a woman I like, I always get a racing heart and a desire for sex and a hard-on. But I don't have a girlfriend. How do I get a partner? Can I do something about the lust? How do I turn a woman on? Am I a sex addict?

Question submitted on 16. January 2021 by hoi745

Corinne Rietmann says

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Hoi745

Thank you for your question. It's completely normal to feel like it and it's also nice. This feeling has nothing to do with sex addiction. Porn can be very stimulating, but often has little to do with real sexuality. Women often don't want to be treated like they are in porn. Be charming, interested and honest. You also need to think about whether you just want to have sex or a committed relationship. Both are OK for the first time, it's entirely up to you. However, if you only enter into a relationship to have sex as quickly as possible, you could hurt another person very much or push them too hard. Find out exactly what you want and then you're sure to find the right person for you.

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