Since the birth, my partner wants much less sex.
Hello
I am 32 years old and have been happily marriedRefers to the moment at which a marriage is entered into. In Switzerland, anyone over the age of 18 can marry without the consent of their parents. Marriage can be entered into between two people regardless of gender. for 6 years. We have three children...
My problem is that my wife has only wanted to have sexSex is an intimate activity between two or more people who share physical closeness. Sex can be practiced in different ways, depending on the preferences and desires of the people involved. The only rule that always applies: sex without mut... with me once a month since the birthAnother word for the birth of a child. of our third child. That's not enough for me. If it were up to me, we could have sex every day. 2-3 times a week would also be OK.
What can I do or do? Please help me!
Dear Rodrigo
You are addressing a situation that occurs in many couples after the birth of children. It is important to talk about it, as you are doing right now.
A woman has not only experienced a lot of changes physically, but also hormonally. In addition, the loveLove is a strong feeling of emotional and often physical attraction to another person. It can manifest itself in various forms, such as romantic love or love for friends and family. Ideas and experiences of love and relationships develop du... for the children is often enormous. Everyday life is no longer just 8 working hours, but up to 24 hours, which can be very tiring. It's not always easy to switch from mother mode to couple and sex mode.
But that doesn't mean that she doesn't care about you or that she no longer has any desire for you. It's great that you desire your wife so much and that you naturally want to be intimateIntimacy is the feeling of closeness and familiarity that comes from spending time with someone. It can refer to many types of relationships, including romantic, sexual and platonic relationships. It can refer to physical closeness, emotion... with her. It's also completely understandable that you have needs. You can be a help to your wife by trying to give her the time to engage in physical closeness. Give her a back or foot massage, take a bath together, bring her flowers, hold her in your arms, kissA kiss is a form of physical intimacy in which two people press their lips together to express feelings such as affection, passion or friendship. There are different types of kisses such as the hand kiss, cheek kiss, French kiss and so on. ... her, look deep into her eyes, show her how much she means to you and how beautiful she is to you, let her sleep in on Sunday and make breakfast. Don't just do these things to have sex, but in everyday life so that she feels valuable.
I realize that with three children there is certainly not much time, but often the little guests do so much more than you think. It's important that you don't put her under pressure, because sexuality becomes a must for her and it should be something passionate and beautiful. Talk to her about your needs and show her that you have them because she is still so sexySexy is the feeling when you feel attractive and confident as a person. It doesn't just mean that you look a certain way, but above all how you see yourself and how you behave towards others. Sexy is a strong expression of a person's energy... to you.
For some women, however, it is also hormonalHormones are chemical messengers produced in the body that control various bodily functions. They are produced by certain organs and transported through the blood to influence the cells and tissues in the body. They influence things such as... that they no longer feel any desire after giving birth. If this is the case for your wife and she is suffering from this, it makes sense to talk to a gynecologistThis is the specialist title for a gynecologist about it. There are also many specialist centres in Switzerland that offer couples counseling on how to find a fulfilling sexuality again after the birth of children.
It is very commendable to take care of this and to seek help. You can find the specialist centres here.
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