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I cramp up during intercourse, what can I do?

I'm afraid that his penis won't fit inside me. And I always get very tense when we try it. What can I do? And what sex positions are there anyway? Maybe I can get an idea of which one might be comfortable for me.

Question submitted on 4. August 2022 by nele

Corinne Rietmann says

Deine Sexpertin von GummiLove

Hello Nele
Sexuality is something that takes time and trust. Try out everything else together first and enjoy it together. The important thing is the good feeling and the pleasure. What is certainly an advantage for the first time is to lie on your back and put a pillow under your pelvis, i.e. your bottom. You could also be on top, the man lies completely still and you decide for yourself how you take the penis inside you. Try to change your thoughts. Not that something is penetrating you, but that you consciously take the penis inside you and surround it with your vagina. Lubricant is also helpful.
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